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>>> WE ARE BACK NOW FOR SOME

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>>> WE ARE BACK NOW FOR SOME 
LIFE LESSONS, ALL ABOUT

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LIFE LESSONS, ALL ABOUT 
FOSTERING STRONGER CONNECTIONS

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FOSTERING STRONGER CONNECTIONS 
WITH OTHERS.

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WITH OTHERS.
NOW BETWEEN HYBRID WORK

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NOW BETWEEN HYBRID WORK 
SCHEDULES, SOCIAL MEDIA USE, THE

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SCHEDULES, SOCIAL MEDIA USE, THE
RISE OF A.I., OF COURSE, IT’S

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RISE OF A.I., OF COURSE, IT’S 
MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVER TO

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MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVER TO 
FOCUS ON ANOTHER TYPE OF A.I.,

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FOCUS ON ANOTHER TYPE OF A.I., 
AUTHENTIC INTERACTION.

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AUTHENTIC INTERACTION.
WE BROUGHT IN A PSYCHOTHERAPIST

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WE BROUGHT IN A PSYCHOTHERAPIST 
TO SHARE SOME TOOLS TO HELP

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TO SHARE SOME TOOLS TO HELP 
DEEPEN OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH

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DEEPEN OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH 
NIRO FELICIANO.

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NIRO FELICIANO.
>> THE THING THAT’S KIND OF COOL

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>> THE THING THAT’S KIND OF COOL
HERE, THERE’S THIS HUGE RIPPLE

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HERE, THERE’S THIS HUGE RIPPLE 
EFFECT OF BENEFITS A LOT OF

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EFFECT OF BENEFITS A LOT OF 
PEOPLE MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW

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PEOPLE MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW 
ABOUT, ABOUT THIS DIFFERENT TYPE

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ABOUT, ABOUT THIS DIFFERENT TYPE
OF SOCIAL INTERACTION.

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OF SOCIAL INTERACTION.
TELL US THAT.

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TELL US THAT.
>> SO WE THINK OF SOCIAL

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>> SO WE THINK OF SOCIAL 
CONNECTION AS A NICE THING TO

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CONNECTION AS A NICE THING TO 
DO, BUT WHAT WOULD YOU THINK IF

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DO, BUT WHAT WOULD YOU THINK IF 
IT SAID, YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON

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IT SAID, YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON 
IT?

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IT?
THAT’S HOW IMPACTFUL IT IS WHEN

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THAT’S HOW IMPACTFUL IT IS WHEN 
IT COMES TO LONGEVITY, PHYSICAL

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IT COMES TO LONGEVITY, PHYSICAL 
AND MENTAL HELP LIKE EP,

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AND MENTAL HELP LIKE EP, 
NUTRITION AND EXERCISE.

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NUTRITION AND EXERCISE.
CHRONIC DISEASES SUCH AS

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CHRONIC DISEASES SUCH AS 
DEMENTIA, HEART DISEASE,

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DEMENTIA, HEART DISEASE, 
STROKE -- BIG ONES -- WHEN WE’RE

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STROKE -- BIG ONES -- WHEN WE’RE
SOCIALLY CONNECTED.

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SOCIALLY CONNECTED.
IT’S REALLY IMPORTANT THAT WE

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IT’S REALLY IMPORTANT THAT WE 
GIVE IT THE WEIGHT THAT IT

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GIVE IT THE WEIGHT THAT IT 
DESERVES.

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DESERVES.
>> STRESS IN TRYING TIMES AS

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>> STRESS IN TRYING TIMES AS 
WELL.

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WELL.
>> LET’S TALK ABOUT THAT.

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>> LET’S TALK ABOUT THAT.
THINK ABOUT A STRESSFUL TIME IN

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THINK ABOUT A STRESSFUL TIME IN 
YOUR LIFE.

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YOUR LIFE.
WHO SHOWED UP FOR YOU?

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WHO SHOWED UP FOR YOU?
WHAT WOULD IT HAVE BEEN LIKE

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WHAT WOULD IT HAVE BEEN LIKE 
WITHOUT THOSE PEOPLE?

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WITHOUT THOSE PEOPLE?
I REMEMBER WHEN YOU SHOWED UP

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I REMEMBER WHEN YOU SHOWED UP 
FOR AL AT HIS HOUSE TO SING, WE

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FOR AL AT HIS HOUSE TO SING, WE 
SAW WHAT THAT DID FOR HIM

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SAW WHAT THAT DID FOR HIM 
EMOTIONALLY.

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EMOTIONALLY.
WHAT WE MAY NOT KNOW, THAT

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WHAT WE MAY NOT KNOW, THAT 
HELPED HIM HEAL FASTER, TOO,

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HELPED HIM HEAL FASTER, TOO, 
BOOSTS IMMUNITY.

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BOOSTS IMMUNITY.
>> BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN WHEN IT

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>> BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN WHEN IT
COMES TO OPENNESS AND

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COMES TO OPENNESS AND 
VULNERABILITY, I WOULD IMAGINE

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VULNERABILITY, I WOULD IMAGINE 
THERE ARE SOME DIFFERENCES.

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THERE ARE SOME DIFFERENCES.
>> I’M GOING TO GENERALIZE BUT,

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>> I’M GOING TO GENERALIZE BUT, 
YOU’RE THE MALE, YOU TELL ME.

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YOU’RE THE MALE, YOU TELL ME.
ARE THERE DIFFERENCES?

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ARE THERE DIFFERENCES?
>> WELL, I WOULD LIKE TO THINK

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>> WELL, I WOULD LIKE TO THINK 
I’M PRETTY OPEN AND CAN BE

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I’M PRETTY OPEN AND CAN BE 
VULNERABLE SOMETIMES.

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VULNERABLE SOMETIMES.
OTHER TIMES PRETTY WALLED OFF.

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OTHER TIMES PRETTY WALLED OFF.
DEPEND ON THE DAY.

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DEPEND ON THE DAY.
>> I DO THINK YOU’RE MORE OPEN

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>> I DO THINK YOU’RE MORE OPEN 
THAN THE AVERAGE.

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THAN THE AVERAGE.
WHAT WE FOUND IS MEN’S

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WHAT WE FOUND IS MEN’S 
RELATIONSHIPS ARE A LITTLE BIT

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RELATIONSHIPS ARE A LITTLE BIT 
MORE TRANSACTIONAL BASED ON

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MORE TRANSACTIONAL BASED ON 
THINGS, SPORTS EVENTS, WORK,

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THINGS, SPORTS EVENTS, WORK, 
CAREER.

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CAREER.
>> YES.

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>> YES.
>> THOSE THINGS.

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>> THOSE THINGS.
THEY KIND OF LIKE TO AVOID THE

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THEY KIND OF LIKE TO AVOID THE 
DEEP STUFF IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

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DEEP STUFF IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
I SEE THIS WITH MY HUSBAND.

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I SEE THIS WITH MY HUSBAND.
HE COMES HOME.

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HE COMES HOME.
WHAT’S GOING ON WITH THE

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WHAT’S GOING ON WITH THE 
RELATIONSHIP -- WE DIDN’T TALK

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RELATIONSHIP -- WE DIDN’T TALK 
ABOUT IT.

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ABOUT IT.
>> SO AND SO HAD A BABY, I

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>> SO AND SO HAD A BABY, I 
DIDN’T KNOW THEY WERE PREGNANT.

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DIDN’T KNOW THEY WERE PREGNANT.
>> OH, MY GOSH.

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>> OH, MY GOSH.
ALEX WILL BE LIKE, YEAH, THEY

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ALEX WILL BE LIKE, YEAH, THEY 
HAD THE BABY.

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HAD THE BABY.
THEY WERE PREGNANT?

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THEY WERE PREGNANT?
>> YES, EXACTLY.

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>> YES, EXACTLY.
YOU KNOW, I’VE LEARNED TO

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YOU KNOW, I’VE LEARNED TO 
APPRECIATE IT IN SOME WAYS

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APPRECIATE IT IN SOME WAYS 
BECAUSE SOMETIMES IT’S GOOD TO

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BECAUSE SOMETIMES IT’S GOOD TO 
TAKE A BREAK FROM THE HARD

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TAKE A BREAK FROM THE HARD 
STUFF, RIGHT, IT GIVES THEM A

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STUFF, RIGHT, IT GIVES THEM A 
SENSE OF REPRISE AND ENERGY, SO

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SENSE OF REPRISE AND ENERGY, SO 
THERE’S BENEFITS TO THAT.

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THERE’S BENEFITS TO THAT.
FEMALES ARE MORE EMOTIONALLY

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FEMALES ARE MORE EMOTIONALLY 
CONNECTED.

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CONNECTED.
THERE’S VULNERABILITY AND HEALTH

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THERE’S VULNERABILITY AND HEALTH
BENEFITS TO THAT.

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BENEFITS TO THAT.
WE KNOW THERE’S SOMETHING CALLED

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WE KNOW THERE’S SOMETHING CALLED
A FEMALE FRIENDSHIP EFFECT THAT

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A FEMALE FRIENDSHIP EFFECT THAT 
REDUCES CORTISOL, INCREASE

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REDUCES CORTISOL, INCREASE 
OXYTOCIN, OUR LOVE BEING

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OXYTOCIN, OUR LOVE BEING 
TOGETHERNESS, HAPPINESS HORMONE

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TOGETHERNESS, HAPPINESS HORMONE 
WHEN FEMALES ARE IN THE PRESENCE

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WHEN FEMALES ARE IN THE PRESENCE
OF OTHER FEMALES.

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OF OTHER FEMALES.
>> HOW DO WE STRENGTHEN THE

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>> HOW DO WE STRENGTHEN THE 
RELATIONSHIPS THAT WE HAVE

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RELATIONSHIPS THAT WE HAVE 
WHETHER IT’S FRIENDS OR

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WHETHER IT’S FRIENDS OR 
PARTNERS, CO-WORKERS, HOW DO WE

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PARTNERS, CO-WORKERS, HOW DO WE 
STRENGTHEN THOSE RELATIONSHIPS?

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STRENGTHEN THOSE RELATIONSHIPS?
>> LET’S TALK ABOUT TWO VERY

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>> LET’S TALK ABOUT TWO VERY 
PRACTICAL THINGS, AND ONE IS

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PRACTICAL THINGS, AND ONE IS 
LANGUAGE.

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LANGUAGE.
YOU MAY HAVE HEARD IT’S NOT WHAT

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YOU MAY HAVE HEARD IT’S NOT WHAT
YOU SAY BUT HOW YOU SAY IT,

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YOU SAY BUT HOW YOU SAY IT, 
WHICH IS NOT ENTIRELY TRUE,

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WHICH IS NOT ENTIRELY TRUE, 
BECAUSE I CAN LOOK AT MY PARTNER

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BECAUSE I CAN LOOK AT MY PARTNER
AND SAY, YOU’RE SUCH A JERK, AND

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AND SAY, YOU’RE SUCH A JERK, AND
IT’S STILL NOT NICE.

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IT’S STILL NOT NICE.
>> THE WAY YOU SAID THAT, IT’S

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>> THE WAY YOU SAID THAT, IT’S 
LIKE YOU SAID IT BEFORE.

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LIKE YOU SAID IT BEFORE.
>> IT FELT FAMILIAR.

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>> IT FELT FAMILIAR.
SO IT IS WHAT YOU SAY BUT HOW

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SO IT IS WHAT YOU SAY BUT HOW 
YOU SAY IT WILL DEPEND ON HOW

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YOU SAY IT WILL DEPEND ON HOW 
IT’S RECEIVED.

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IT’S RECEIVED.
SO THINK ABOUT WORD CHOICE.

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SO THINK ABOUT WORD CHOICE.
WHAT’S THE IT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN

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WHAT’S THE IT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
LOVE YA AND I LOVE YOU.

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LOVE YA AND I LOVE YOU.
WE HAVE OWNERSHIP WITH ONE AND

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WE HAVE OWNERSHIP WITH ONE AND 
NOT THE OTHER.

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NOT THE OTHER.
THANKS OR THANK YOU SO MUCH.

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THANKS OR THANK YOU SO MUCH.
I’M SO GRATEFUL.

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I’M SO GRATEFUL.
SO WORD CHOICE IS IMPORTANT.

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SO WORD CHOICE IS IMPORTANT.
BUT THEN ALL AUTHENTIC

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BUT THEN ALL AUTHENTIC 
RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE GOOD

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RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE GOOD 
LISTENING.

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LISTENING.
HOW MANY TIMES DO WE ASK, HOW

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HOW MANY TIMES DO WE ASK, HOW 
ARE YOU?

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ARE YOU?
AND WE’RE WAITING FOR THE FINE,

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AND WE’RE WAITING FOR THE FINE, 
BUT THEN THEY TELL YOU

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BUT THEN THEY TELL YOU 
EVERYTHING.

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EVERYTHING.
I WISH I DIDN’T KNOW.

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I WISH I DIDN’T KNOW.
I DIDN’T SIGN UP FOR THIS.

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I DIDN’T SIGN UP FOR THIS.
BUT THAT’S ACTUALLY BETTER.

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BUT THAT’S ACTUALLY BETTER.
LET’S ONLY SAY IT WHEN WE MEAN

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LET’S ONLY SAY IT WHEN WE MEAN 
IT AND THEN PRACTICE CURIOSITY.

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IT AND THEN PRACTICE CURIOSITY.
WE WANT TO LEARN ABOUT THESE

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WE WANT TO LEARN ABOUT THESE 
PEOPLE.

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PEOPLE.
AND HUMILITY GOES ALONG WITH

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AND HUMILITY GOES ALONG WITH 
CURIOSITY AND THE DEFINITION OF

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CURIOSITY AND THE DEFINITION OF 
HUMILITY I LOVE IS NOT THINKING

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HUMILITY I LOVE IS NOT THINKING 
LESS OF YOURSELF BUT THINKING OF

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LESS OF YOURSELF BUT THINKING OF
YOURSELF LESS.

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YOURSELF LESS.
WHEN YOU WALK INTO A ROOM, DON’T

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WHEN YOU WALK INTO A ROOM, DON’T
WORRY ABOUT BEING THE MOST

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WORRY ABOUT BEING THE MOST 
INTERESTING PERSON IN THE ROOM.

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INTERESTING PERSON IN THE ROOM.
TRY AND BE THE MOST INTERESTED.

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TRY AND BE THE MOST INTERESTED.
AND ALL OF THOSE THINGS WILL

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AND ALL OF THOSE THINGS WILL 
LEAD TO MORE AUTHENTIC

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LEAD TO MORE AUTHENTIC 
CONNECTION.

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CONNECTION.
>> IF YOU’RE TRYING TO START

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>> IF YOU’RE TRYING TO START 
OUT, YOU HAVEN’T MADE THAT MANY

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OUT, YOU HAVEN’T MADE THAT MANY 
CONNECTIONS, DON’T HAVE THAT

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CONNECTIONS, DON’T HAVE THAT 
MANY PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE, IT

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MANY PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE, IT 
SEEMS INTIMIDATING.

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SEEMS INTIMIDATING.
HOW WOULD YOU START?

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HOW WOULD YOU START?
>> VULNERABILITY IS AT THE HEART

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>> VULNERABILITY IS AT THE HEART
OF AUTHENTIC CONNECTION AND IF

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OF AUTHENTIC CONNECTION AND IF 
WE WANT TO GET VULNERABILITY, WE

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WE WANT TO GET VULNERABILITY, WE
HAVE TO GIVE IT.

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HAVE TO GIVE IT.
I’VE OFTEN TOLD CLIENTS, PICK

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I’VE OFTEN TOLD CLIENTS, PICK 
TWO PEOPLE THAT YOU TRUST TO

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TWO PEOPLE THAT YOU TRUST TO 
SHARE THIS WITH, AND WHAT YOU

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SHARE THIS WITH, AND WHAT YOU 
FIND IS WHEN YOU SHARE SOMETHING

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FIND IS WHEN YOU SHARE SOMETHING
THAT EMOTIONAL AND DEEP, SOMEONE

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THAT EMOTIONAL AND DEEP, SOMEONE
ELSE WILL OPEN UP AND ALL OF A

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ELSE WILL OPEN UP AND ALL OF A 
SUDDEN YOU HAVE CONNECTION AND

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SUDDEN YOU HAVE CONNECTION AND 
SUPPORT, SO THAT VULNERABILITY

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SUPPORT, SO THAT VULNERABILITY 
IS IMPORTANT.

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IS IMPORTANT.
AND THEN, ALSO, YOU KNOW, YOU

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AND THEN, ALSO, YOU KNOW, YOU 
HAVE TO SHOW UP AS YOURSELF NOT

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HAVE TO SHOW UP AS YOURSELF NOT 
YOUR CURATED, I’M SO SUCCESSFUL

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YOUR CURATED, I’M SO SUCCESSFUL 
SELF ON SOCIAL MEDIA BUT

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SELF ON SOCIAL MEDIA BUT 
YOURSELF.

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YOURSELF.
HOW WILL YOU KNOW THEY’RE YOUR

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HOW WILL YOU KNOW THEY’RE YOUR 
PEOPLE, HOW WILL YOU KNOW THEY

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PEOPLE, HOW WILL YOU KNOW THEY 
ACCEPT YOU FOR YOU?

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ACCEPT YOU FOR YOU?
I HAVE A BUNCH OF GIRLFRIENDS

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I HAVE A BUNCH OF GIRLFRIENDS 
WHO WILL ROLL UP AT MY HOUSE

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WHO WILL ROLL UP AT MY HOUSE 
LIKE THEY JUST GOT OUT OF BED,

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LIKE THEY JUST GOT OUT OF BED, 
NO ONE CARES.

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NO ONE CARES.
WE’RE NOT TRYING TO IMPRESS EACH

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WE’RE NOT TRYING TO IMPRESS EACH
OTHER.

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OTHER.
>> LOVE THE COMPANY.

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>> LOVE THE COMPANY. 
>> IF YOU WANT TO FIND YOUR

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>> IF YOU WANT TO FIND YOUR 
PEOPLE, LET GO OF THE PEOPLE

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PEOPLE, LET GO OF THE PEOPLE 
YOU’RE PRETENDING WITH TO MAKE

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YOU’RE PRETENDING WITH TO MAKE 
ROOM FOR THE ONES WHO CAN BE

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ROOM FOR THE ONES WHO CAN BE 
THERE FOR YOU.

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THERE FOR YOU.
>> I’M TELLING YOU, EVERY TIME

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>> I’M TELLING YOU, EVERY TIME 
SHE COMES, YOU COULD GIVE US A

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SHE COMES, YOU COULD GIVE US A 
BILL.

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BILL.
>> GOOD SEGMENT.

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>> GOOD SEGMENT.
OH, MY GOSH.

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OH, MY GOSH.
>> YOU CAN’T TAKE HER WITH YOU.

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>> YOU CAN’T TAKE HER WITH YOU.
>> THANK YOU SO MUCH.

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>> THANK YOU SO MUCH.
AND FOR MORE ABOUT FOSTERING

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AND FOR MORE ABOUT FOSTERING 
THIS AUTHENTIC CONNECTION AND

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THIS AUTHENTIC CONNECTION AND 
THE IMPORTANCE ALSO SPECIFICALLY

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THE IMPORTANCE ALSO SPECIFICALLY
FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS CHECK OUT THE

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FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS CHECK OUT THE
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